Dear Grieving America,

I understand you are scared. I understand you are sad. I understand you are afraid.

Fear does not bring unity. Fear breeds division. Fear is not rational. Fear is held in your amygdala providing you with body responses that you do not want to have.

Acknowledge it. Know it. Tend to it.

Your fear is an illusion on what you FEEL may come. It is not productive. It will not help our country. It will not help disadvantaged populations. It will not bring change.

Please tend to you fear. The country needs you to not be afraid right now. In a time of division we MUST come together and that can only happen with understanding, love and hope.

Share your fears with your friends, be heard and understood. Keep the fear off your newsfeed. Have a cup of coffee with a friend. Get together and talk about your values with like minded people. Meditate. Be mindful. Relax. Get a massage. You will be OK. The Country needs you to be OK. You cannot advocate for change if you are not OK.

When you are more in your “okayness” take a step back. Find values that you SHARE with trump and his supporters. That’s right, you share values with them.

Whether it be getting rid of lobbyists, implementing term limits, paid maternity leave for women… I’ve even heard him say he wants to protect and support our LGBT community. I know we can’t believe everything that comes out of his mouth (or anything?) but if we go by that logic we can’t believe the negative either. Yes, it’s a shot in the dark, we don’t know, but please lets start on the places that we DO stand together on.

If we can get behind the republican majority on the SHARED issues then that can be a focus and we can make something positive over the next 4 years and in that time maybe the DNC will get their shit together and not let greed inform their decision making.

Liberals have been so worried about the black population, the Hispanic population, Muslims, refugees and more that we have disregarded the white working poor who have made their voice heard in this election. They too have been suffering. We not only let them suffer but we ignored them and they got louder and louder until now, and their voices have been heard. If we KEEP ignoring them we will push them further away. Listen, activate, change, and bring together. To further understand what I’m talking about PLEASE listen to this podcast.

Yesterday a client told me that balance only happens in motion. Standing straight is not balance because it is static and balance is the coming back to the center.

The right have felt off balance for some time now and the country asked to come back to center. The country is trying to balance itself out. A whole group feels ostracized, ignored, and devalued. We can’t have people feeling like this in our country.

We MUST love them. We MUST be compassionate. We MUST love our country and ALL the people inside of it. If LOVE trumps HATE then we must act in accordance with our believes. Your fear is not congruent with your speak. You actions toward conservatives are not congruent with your proposed compassion.

Please. Take a deep breath. Tend to your fears and your wounds. Fear will not drive us forward, but healing and love will.